The Challenge of Seeking Help, Part I: Strength or Failure
Seeking professional help from a counselor is not always an easy step to take. For one it requires us to admit that our past attempts in addressing a troubling circumstance have not been successful or as effective, and that we continue to struggle with the issue. Can this be equated to admitting that we have failed? Not at all!
In fact to seek help when needed is to realize that we can do something to positively contribute to our success and wellbeing. Whether our aim is to improve a relationship, cope better with our emotions, or overcome a traumatic event, seeking help is sign of strength, not an admission of failure.Is there a problem with admitting failure or weakness? Yes, there can be. Admitting our errors or learning from our mistakes is usually the first step in finding better solutions and making better decisions. Acknowledging our weaknesses allows us to pin point areas for needed growth. To not do so would be detrimental to our welfare and equivalent to living life in a hazardous and narcissistic manner.
However, when the admission of failure or weakness only serves to enslave us in a web of shame and guilt without any hope of remedy, such admission is toxic to the soul. It is counterproductive and contradictory to the redemptive power we find in God.When what we have tried has been ineffective, to do more of the same only serves to deepen our agony. It makes the circumstances worst. When our issues are beyond the scope of those we have or would normally turn to, working collaboratively with a professional counselor can help. Seeking counseling can allow us to develop a clearer understanding of our situation, explore more adequate strategies consistent with our goals and values, and implement the changes we need to improve our welfare.
Because life matters, the investment is priceless.
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Thanks for good post
Posted by: JessicaStevy | May 10, 2009 05:40 PM